Family and Friends
Do your family and friends ever question you about Freemasonry? What would you tell them?
I became a Freemason back in 2007, ever since I’ve tried to keep my family and friends involved as much as possible by inviting them to functions such as ladies festivals, fundraisers, bbq’s and fun days.I’m not saying they’ve all suddenly wanted to become Freemasons but it’s certainly helped to dispel some of the myths surrounding the Craft and what we do as Freemasons.
My biggest supporter has to be my wife, from the day I joined she’s taken an interest in Freemasonry and made a real effort to understand it. When I went through the chair for the first time in 2012 I told her that I would be doing a lot of visiting during the year, her response was “That’s ok, just give me a good ladies night and let me know when you will be out so I don’t cook you a meal” The year passed with me visiting sometimes 5-6 nights a week, not once did she complain. True to my word I gave her the ladies festival she wanted and all was right with the world (and my home life)
The support I’ve had from my family hasn’t only been when I’ve taken the chair. A lot of our weekends have been taken up with charitable work, often holding fundraisers at our own home for various causes. Once again there’s never been a complaint, even when she’s catered for 70-80 people or stood in a muddy field raising money for a good cause during the summer months. (Our summers are normally wet for those that are reading this ouside of the UK)
I remember getting my letter from the Province of East Kent stating I’d been offered my Provincial honours, my wife was probably as excited as me when I opened it and found out I was to be made a Steward, she even knew what a big deal that was. You would have thought she had received them from her reaction!
As well as my wife I’ve always tried to involve my teenage son as much as possible. At a very early age he attended many functions and fundraisers with us, all of which he’s thoroughly enjoyed and which have kept his interest in Freemasonry going over the years. I have no doubt that one day I will have the pleasure of bringing him into my Mother lodge as a Lewis, a night I know we both can’t wait for.
A great deal of my friends who are not masons are always asking me”What are the Freemasons and what do they do” My answers are generally “The world’s oldest fraternal organisation” “A charitable organisation with a few surprises chucked in for good measure” and “A society which encourages good men to become better” as for what we do? I often tell people “We are the one of the biggest donators to charity in England next to the National Lottery” this normally starts an interesting conversation. One thing I’ve always done is try and educate the uneducated about Freemasonry,to try and get them to understand the huge amount of work our organisation does in our communities and for those less fortunate than ourselves.
Having my family and friends with me during my masonic journey has certainly enhanced my love of what we do, and made my life so much easier. I would recommend that any existing Freemasons or those considering joining bring their families along for the ride, for me it’s enhanced my enjoyment of Freemasonry, and means I still spend a lot of time with my family and friends while doing something I feel passionate about.
Thank you for taking the time for reading my latest blog, feel free to leave any comments you may have. Until next time continue to enjoy your Freemasonry.